I have been dating someone for 3 weeks, and we slept together for the first time last week. We met on a personals website so we were both obviously looking to meet someone. Well, before I go any further and become too emotionally attached, I would like to know if he is still going to be out there looking. I don't want to come across as pushy and I am certainly not trying to get him to marry me, but I do not want to be sleeping with him while he is searching and/or dating others. He says he is "still looking" so should I stop the sex ? How do I tell him this ? Yes I know I put the cart before the horse, but it is what it is now and Im not sure how to proceed. believe it or not, we are in our 40's. He knew up front I wanted a monogamous relationship, but got the sex, and now says he's looking.....
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OK, so you made a slip-up in your priorities at first, or you got carried away. You're still justified in holding to the issues that you feel are important, namely monogamy.
I think you should just be honest in this situation, and your description to us sounds pretty darn similar to what I'd suggest you say to him too. Tell him what's important to you, reassure him that you're not trying to build a cage around him or be pushy, and then respect his decision and figure out where to go from there.
You have the formula down, now just say it to the right person! Good luck!
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