In a dating rut. After a horrible break up a year ago I still haven't really dated, though I wa

I had a horrible break up in late 2006 into early 2007. It had been a 2 year relationship, but by the time we broke up the relationship became messy due to a semi-long distance relationship thanks to his job and my school. Now I am finishing up my degree and for the past year haven't had much luck on the dating scene. I know for a fact that I am physically attractive because I have no problem attracting men who are purely interested in the physical, but I feel as if it is time for me to actually get somewhere with a relationship.

I tend to attract and am attracted to men who run along the line between introverted and extroverted and are often mysterious. I don't know why that is, but I don't enjoy men who I can figure out in 5 minutes.

To conclude, I really would like some advice on how to get out of this dating rut. Thanks!

In a dating rut. After a horrible break up a year ago I still haven't really dated, though I want to. Advice?pimp myspace

I believe you when you said it was a horrible break up. That is why you are protecting yourself by trying your best to figure guys out at first eye contact. Don't try to figure out guys so soon. sometimes the good ones will act goofy or just stupid in front of a woman who is beautiful just because they aren't sure what to do but want your attention. I suggest you just let your hair down and let them be goofy and go with the flow. You'll have more fun that way. You will get out of your rut soon enough. Good luck and just have fun.

In a dating rut. After a horrible break up a year ago I still haven't really dated, though I want to. Advice?stars myspace myspace.com

Ask guys who you are interested in out. Since you're physically attractive the rejection rate is probably going to be pretty low, and you will demonstrate to other men the sort of people you are interested in. Which is key because you probably fall in the stereotype of the hot girl who complains about the jerks who she dates, but only ever seems to want to be friends with the nicer guys.

I would suggest looking for guys who have a decent idea of what they want to do with their life and how they plan to do it, they're a lot more likely to be nice guys with decent amounts of self confidence. And as a corollary to that, if you want to increase the self confidence of anyone encourage them to figure out where they want to be in life after a few years and some of the different ways to get there.