My sister is dating my ex....I need some advice?

Me and my ex dated on and off for about a year and a half. We broke up about 4 months ago and I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 3 months.I found out from him that my sister is now dating my ex.Me and my ex had a pretty bad breakup and he's the last person I want to see at any family functions-especially as my sister's boyfriend.My entire family knew before I did and I feel like a total fool.I feel so hurt and betrayed that she hid it from me.I think if she would've confronted me and expressed her feelings in an adult manner I would've been more understanding.My sister was my best friend and she's been lying to me for months and sneaking around behind my back.And she knows I found out but I have yet to receive even a phone call from her.A part of me says to just drop it and concentrate on my current relationship because he really makes me happy but another part of me wants to rip her hair out.I hate having these hostile feelings toward her.What should I do?

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I feel you completely on this one.. Because I have a sister that married my ex(kinda)... and I know how you feel about having to see that person at family functions especially since you have a new boyfriend. So, Im not going to tell you to just try and ignore your feelings... because Im sure you are wondering if they were seeing each other when you and he was a couple... and she will always have to wonder if he is completely over you... but as far as being mad at her I can understand that 100% because she should have told you out front about the situation instead of letting you be the be the last to know... and your parents should have stepped up as well.... but sometimes family isnt always the greatest at handling situation like this... you will have to figure out the answer for this on your own... But I say most definetly to focus on your current relationship 100% because he doesnt deserve anything less then you being completely his... and far as your sister, if she isnt women enough to speak out for the guy that she claims she is in love with ,,,, then it doesnt really mean anything...

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Woah.... your sister's a ho. Call her up and confront her. She is not a very good sister, this is her fault. Rip her a new one, she should know better. What a b*tch.
call her up tell her how you feel and drop it and concertate on your current b/f.
well you should ask yourself who is more important to you. your ex or your sister but i would bet if you sit down with her and talk it everything will be just fine
tell her what he does and doesn't like, ie he like it when you _ _ _ _ sexually. have you noticed that little mole on his? that kind of stuff.
i think ripping her hair out sounds like a good idea, but seriously.....time will pass %26amp; she will find out what kind of jerk he is just like you did. don't let this come between you, family is important. be the better sister %26amp; forgive her.
ouch that must hurt,

is she dating him cos she likes him or to get at you....

any advice you give her will only be viewed as bitter interference, I think this will fizzle out and then you will be the bigger person who can then rebuild your friendship with your sister, move on be happy, or if you can't be happy don't let him/her see how hurt you are that is their wicked plan..

they may be happy and the best couple and time will heal if they are meant to be it will happen if you make a scene your family will be forced to choose and the choice may not go your way, find someone outside this mess to confide in a professional maybe and take one day at a time, focus on your future with your new partner, not the past

good luck to you
yeah, u wanna rip her hair out and what she did was wrong, wrong, wrong----but at the end of the day, she's still ur sister. this "ex" doesn't seem as if he cares for either of u. she will find that out eventually. i wish u the best. don't waste energy having hostile feelings. be happy with ur new man and enjoy the summer!
Let sleeping dogs lay, cause it go through that with her then it would cost your relationship her to be sour. Just tell her you wished that she would have had the guts to come and tell you about her situation instead of running around town with your ex.
your sister was so wrong for that move u should be angry at both of them epsecially at your sister
Here is another opportunity for you to show some love and forgiveness to someone who might not be deserving. I understand how you feel. You'd think that no matter what, your own sister would not date someone you dated. I wouldn't. But I have seen and I have learned that there are people who don't share the same ideas or beliefs. Don't expect a phone call, a message of "I'm sorry", or any of that. You are going to have to be the bigger person in this role. Forget it. She is still your sister. Forget him. He is part of your past. Get over the hurt as best you can. Just realize and accept that we are all different and you can't expect people do handle a situation as you would. You might be more mature. I know it can be hard, but just remember that we are forgiven daily of all acts against God and he still loves us and gives us another chance - we have to do the same otherwise, we are not truly loving each other the way he wants us to. I love you and admire that you are willing to move on. Grace and peace be with you.
You are right, you have to concentrate in your current relationship, specially if you are happy with your new boyfriend, don't think about the past!! Don't do it right now, you are angry and you could say something you could regret after, wait some time and then try to talk to your sister and find out why is she doing it. If your family is for that relationship maybe it's not tooooo bad?? Good luck!
You should go see your sister and tell her exactly what you just said here.

Getting it off your chest will make you feel a little bit better, even though it probably won't make it go away. The only way that will happen is if she has an epiphany after your conversation and sees him for the pig that he is. It could happen.
Wow.. That's dangerous ground... But, I've been in a similar place in the past myself, where a good friend of mine began dating one of my ex's. While it certainly put a strain on the friendship between him and myself, I kept telling myself over and over that just because things didn't work out between her and I, doesn't mean that my friend and her aren't in fact perfect soul mates. You had a great suggestion yourself - to concentrate more on your current relationship, and try to believe that just because it didn't work for you and him, that you're a better person today because of that relationship. It's especially difficult when break-ups get ugly, I know! Oh yea... Just for the record, I don't agree with your family hiding this information from you, and I certainly don't agree with the idea of your sister dating your ex either... It's not so uncommon, since your family all became familiar with him while you were dating him, but it's a line I certainly would never cross in my own family. BUT, maybe my own methods for handling my past situation can help you with your current one. Good luck!