Dating a friend or not?

i always heard that being friends first then dating , are the best relationships. So i was wondering, do you have to be their friend first, or even know them a long time b4 you go out w/ them? Or not. But like i said i heard that people who date , that were close friends first or the best relationships. So what do you think?

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The first thing you need to decide what you want out of the relationship and be honest with yourself and her about your expectations. That doesn't mean getting down on one knee and pledging your undying love on the first date (or first 10 dates for that matter). What it does mean is if you are looking for a one night stand that you don't tell her your open to a committed relationship and visa versa.

From your question it sounds like you are looking for something long term. Your question is a little trickier than it might seem to most people at first. It's true that the ideal relationships are between people that are BOTH physically attracted and best friends with one another. The problem is that women subconsciously categorize the men in their lives as either potential mates or as "just friends." Once you fall into the "just friends" category it's virtually impossible to get out of it. On the other hand if she's attracted to you and enjoys your friendship then your golden and can take the relationship anywhere you like.

One of the biggest reason relationships eventually fail is that people settle for whatever is available to them at the time. So I think it's important to date a variety of people so that when you do settle down it's by choice and not by default. This also greatly enhances your chances of meeting "the one" it also will help you have the skills necessary to capture her heart when you do meet her.

Success in dating and relationships is a skill that can be learned but you have to be willing to put in the time and effort. The rewards are well worth it in my opinion. Here are a couple of links that have helped me and I think may help you.